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February 09, 2007
Her True Story
I just finished watching the 4-hour long "Diana: Her True Story." (Aired on WE Women's Entertainment. Don't you just love to watch, like slowing down for a car accident?) It was made in 1993, just after Charles and Di announced their separation. Knowing how the story ends--divorce, her hooking up with Dodi, her death, those sons losing their Mummy (I stayed up and watched the funeral in 1997. Did you? I cried! That card on the flowers on her coffin, remember? "Mummy"), and his marriage to Camilla (I don't like her, by the way)--is so poignant and just makes me sad.
I know full well that it's a TV movie and made for drama. (It should be aired on TNT, the network for drama!) But it's awful to have watched the two of them use the intimacy and trust and privacy of the marriage relationship to do nothing but hurt, abuse, and injure the other.
Being married is like having nuclear power. You can set a bomb off in your spouse's life so easily, even in the best of marriages.
But to use that power to deliberately hurt the other...it makes me sick. Sick to my stomach. Charles (that jerk. I don't like him either) went out of his way to hurt and humiliate Di, withholding a husband's most valuable asset--his love and support. Poor Di had such a shock of a life-change in becoming part of the Royal Family, and he did nothing to help her. Ick. And Di! She reacted out of immaturity and sinfulness and shamed and humiliated and disrespected him. They acted and reacted and reacted and reacted and everyone around them suffered.
Now, The Dude and I aren't perfect! We know it. We have our land mines and blind spots and weaknesses, but we try. We both grew up in homes where our parents worked hard on their marriages and succeeded! I can't wrap my mind around the kind of hurt people sustain from living through a civil-war-marriage...and the hurt of growing up in a family whose parents hate each other also makes my mind explode. (Like trying to understand quantum theory..."Dr. Petcher, you're telling me that someone who shines a flashlight at me who is traveling .99 the speed of light will actually shine the light at me yesterday? Someone who travels to Alpha Centauri at .99 the speed of light will return in 80 years but won't have aged, at least not to us? What??")
I wish fairy tales were true. I think fairy tales, like the ones The Brothers Grimm et al wrote down for us, are just symbols or caricatures, but real success stories don't leave out the flaws and the sweat and the pain of actual struggle. Because real success takes a hell of a lot of effort, you know! And it takes (gulp) death to self and true self-sacrifice.
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